Bipolar, PTSD, and Daily Life with Etsy, Fashion, Uncategorized, Vintage

Thrift Stores Can Save You Hundreds Each Year!

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I don’t know about you, but I hate to pay full price for items that I know I can find for less elsewhere. Just about the only things I will buy new anymore  household items such as cleaning tools and such, under clothes, and cosmetics. As far as I’m concerned, everything else is fair game.

We have several thrift stores within driving distance that I love to go to regularly just to see what they have. I usually go in the name of antique shopping, but always find something for myself, my husband, or someone else.

I was recently complimented on a lovely crochet top that I had on at a doctor’s office and the lady asked me where I had purchased it. When I told her that I had gotten it at a thrift store, she looked at me as if I had just told her I had some really serious communicable disease, and she was going to catch it! What a SNOB!!

Years ago, I would have been deeply hurt by her reaction, and I never would have told anyone about thrifting again. However, I am a stronger person today, more sure of my place in this world. I actually felt sorry for her and her husband. The money that was spent on her outfit for that day would have clothed me for year! This older woman was dressed up and bedazzled with all sorts of jewelry, all of which probably cost a fortune, while her husband was in his jeans and chambray shirt. LOL

The money that you can save each year buying in thrift stores adds up to hundreds, and even thousands for some.

Here a few of the ways I save every year:

Clothing: If you have children, you know very well how quickly they can grow out of something before really getting much wear from it. Thrift stores have some fantastic bargains on children’s items! All you have to do is look to make sure there is no damage or staining. (In my opinion, infant clothing should always be cleaned AND disinfected prior to use just to be 100% sure.)

Teen clothing too! If you have a large town or city nearby, or towns with a university in or nearby are excellent sources of some serious bargains for teen clothing and shoes. Many of the students donate their clothing after very little wear just to keep from packing and moving them when they finish school.

Prom and Homecoming style dresses are constantly being donated after those dances, and after weddings as well. How many women actually get to wear or sell their bridesmaids gown? I was in a wedding 23 years ago and never did use that dress again. Finally donated 5 years ago.

For me, I wear an odd size to find in retail stores, and if they do have it, it’s usually something really girlie and too young looking for a 49 year old woman. I also have a sense of style that is not always easily found anymore. I like broomstick skirts and long flowing sleeves, usually in some solid color. Jeans are tough, I have no butt, but I do still wear them often. 2 for $5 at the thrift store – name brand!!

antiques

Household Items: Anything from drapes to silverware and dishes can usually be found in thrift stores. I had a footstool that needed to be re-covered, so I found a fabulous pair of heavy drapes and used them to make it look new again, and it matches my decor! Cost $5 and some industrial staples. “Can’t beat that with a stick.” as my husband says.

My dogs are all the time destroying their blankets, guess where they come from? You got it! Why pay $20+ for a new blanket every couple of months for the dog when he is going to have it full of holes soon? $3.50 at the local thrift store, and he’s happy as a clam for another 3 or 4 months.

Like knick-knacks? Well any thrift store would be heaven! A multitude of various types of items can be found to decorate your  home in any manner you wish! Framed art, empty frames, wall hangings, tabletop items, vases, baskets, you name it! You just never know what you will find!

Having a party? Thrift stores are great places to find anything from actual party supplies and decorations, to fantastic serving trays and utensils. I have found gift bags, streamers, balloons, party plates and napkins, even gift bags and greeting cards!

Craft Supplies: Many people start a craft and decide not to continue for whatever reason. Some just clean out the kids’ closet when they leave for school. LOL The number of various items that can be found for crafting and refurbishing is amazing!  You just have to go and let your imagination run wild on this one!

Furniture: Fabulous and interesting furniture can be found at many thrift stores as well. Couches, love seats, tables, lamps, entertainment centers, buffets, desks, cribs, bed frames, I have literally seen every stick of furniture you would need to fill an entire house in one store. Even sinks!

I have also found things like exercise equipment, medical equipment, tools, antiques, and some very lovely people working the stores that are simply the BEST!!

If you haven’t been to your local thrift stores yet, give them a chance, you might be surprised at what you can save!!

Have a Fabulous Day!!

Keep Smiling! They’re Contagious!

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How Not To Let Others Ruin Your Day

Misspelling aside, this is good advice, although it’s not always easy to do. It can be pretty tough, when you are in a good mood, just be-bopping along, when some jerk decides to upset the apple cart of your day.

How do we keep people from bringing us down and ruining our day? These people can be difficult to avoid when they are a part of your daily life, such as a boss, coworker, friend, or family member. However, there are many ways to keep your day on track and keep your good vibes going.

Here are 6 fantastic ways to cope paraphrased from a Huffington Post Article: How To Stop A Bad Moment From Ruining Your Day

6 Ways To Keep People From Ruining Your Day

  1. Observe your Emotions. Examine how you feel, and acknowledge it. If necessary, look at your emotions and ask “Why do I feel this way?” Acknowledging and examining your emotions in an observatory way can help to manage them without allowing them to take over your thoughts completely.
  2. Remind yourself that you may be interpreting the situation incorrectly. According to the article, “…everyone has a tendency to distort neutral situations into negative experiences.” I can certainly say that I tend to do this. They use an example of your boss taking you off a major project, and, instead of asking why, you just assume it’s because you aren’t good enough. Asking yourself what other scenarios are possible can help see things from different points of views, as well as realizing that we tend to do this and developing ways to re-train your thought patterns.
  3. Concentrate on the facts. It can help to write down on a piece of paper (pro & con style – 2 columns) the facts you know, versus the worries, assumptions and fears you have. Then go back and concentrate on the facts. This can help you to see things more logically.
  4. Create a positivity practice. Get more control over your though process. Easier said than done, but we can retrain our brains to think positively! The article suggests that each night we write down three things that well during our day and why we think they went well. In this way, we can retrain our brain to think more positively everyday. The article calls it “learned optimism.”
  5. Get out of your head. Basically, this means to just keep busy and distract yourself from thinking negatively. Do things you enjoy doing, get creative, exercise, socialize, read a book, anything to shift your focus to something positive.  I use this one the most often I think, making jewelry, playing with the dogs, gardening…
  6. Finally, check in with yourself. Everyone has negative thoughts and feelings at times, but it’s important to be sure that you are not dealing with a much larger issue. If your negative thoughts are causing severe interpersonal relationship issues, you may want to seek out a mental health professional.

Anxiety & Depression Association of America

Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies

Here’s hoping that you have a Fabulous Day!!

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Foolish Question Friday!

Some say that their is no such thing as a foolish question – um, have these people actually spent any time talking to people? Because really, people ask some incredibly foolish and stupid questions.

For instance, several years ago, my mother and walked into a local thrift store and a little elderly lady (with short curly blue hair) looked at me and gasped, “How do you wash that hair?” she asked. (My hair is ultra-long – it’s all the way to my ankles! Just give me sunglasses, and I could be Cousin It!) My immediate reply, without even thinking first, was to say, “In the shower, like everyone else.” To me, that was a foolish, if not really stupid, question. How the heck did she think I washed it? The water hose at the fire department? Duh.

Anyway, I started on this quest with my own question – Why do light bulbs unscrew themselves? The quick answer – heat expansion and contraction. The Mystery of the Unscrewing Bulb. This drives me crazy with my craft lamps! Those lights get hot when I have to screw them back in!

I did a simple Google search for “top stupid questions people ask the internet” and found some of the most hilarious stuff I have seen on the Internet so far:

 There's a pretty easy way of finding this out if you gave birth...

The general stupidity here is astounding, for sure.

 To be fair, she may be on to something...

Okay, I’m not real sure how her logic is working here. How, exactly, would having sex with someone else have any affect on the smell of his FARTS? The smell of his Tidy Whiteys, the smell of his breath even (naaaaasty), but HIS FARTS? How?

 Nope, no idea how these two things are related

BAHAHAHAHAHA! For real? The correlation between turtles and orange juice is something I have never heard of. You? The answer from Pirate Man is the best answer one could possibly give to such an question! Love it! (sorry for the adds – can’t edit the photo)

 Things you need to know before you book a trip

Um, no lady, there are NO BIRDS in Canada, just moose and really polite people! BAHAHAHA! WTH?

 Someone skipped a few science lessons

Kid, you’re right, they are totally made up, it’s all in your head. LOL. Before you remark on the possible age of the poster, they are old enough to spell skeletons.

 Blame the microwaves

I chose to end with this one because it really isn’t foolish, or stupid. It’s a very valid question that microwave people should address immediately!! (Yeah, I’m chuckling like crazy!)

If you would like to read more of these (I only chose the top few, there are 37 on this site alone!), here is the link: ‘CAN I TELL MY HUSBAND’S CHEATING FROM HIS FARTS?’ 37 of the most ridiculous questions people ever asked the internet

So, anytime you feel foolish for asking a question, just refer back here and remind yourself that you are a GENIUS compared to these folks – and they went seriously public with their stupid questions!

Have a Fabulous Day!
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New Jewelry Items & A Coupon!

Shop Post SAVENOW

Through all of the added stresses lately, my jewelry business has kept me from becoming too preoccupied with the things I cannot change, and to instead concentrate on the things that I love to do.

Yesterday afternoon I took 154 pictures of some new jewelry, a couple of purses I am selling on Ebay, and a fantastic vintage pitcher and glasses set for the shop. It was such fun! I’m actually starting to enjoy this part that I used to hate, not that my pictures are any better, I just like to look at the pretty sparkly things! LOL

Here are the items already in my Etsy shop here CathysCraftyDesigns on Etsy

Here’s the link to my shop again –CathysCraftyDesigns on Etsy – The coupon code SAVENOW can save you 20% even on new items!

I will be adding the rest of the items throughout the next week, so I will keep you all updated!

I am also auctioning a Michael Kors purse for my niece on Ebay. She needs to pay for a school calculator that accidentally got broken. In my day, I had to pay for a ton of unreturned library books. The calculator is a lot more expensive!

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Keep Smiling They’re Contagious!

(if you can’t smile, get dark sunglasses and hide your scowl! LOL)

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Stress and Bipolar Disorder

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Bipolar is defined as a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in mood, energy, activity levels, and the ability to carry out day-to-day tasks. (National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)

Everyday life for someone with Bipolar can be difficult to manage without any major upsets to our daily routine. The highs of mania and lows of depression can cycle through our day like a roller coaster causing havoc on our daily lives and relationships with others.

Stress is defined as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.

Adding an unexpected disruption into anyone’s daily life, whether it be good or bad, raises their stress level for sure. When that person already has the added difficulty of Bipolar disorder, or any other mental health issue, the stress level jumps to outrageous highs.

How To Cope

Of course there is the ever-present advice of taking your meds, talking to your doctors and support groups, yada yada yada. All of those are really great advice too, if you maintain these things, you can begin to get a handle on your life.

What about daily life? What to do when someone suddenly pisses in your Wheaties?

  1. Take a really deep breath – slowly. During this breath, think about why you are where you are at that moment – paycheck, satisfaction, fun, shopping for a needed item, whatever the purpose – and realize that you have a ‘mission’ to complete. Realize that the person that just did whatever they did will not stop you from attaining your goal if you do not let them.
  2. Take a minute alone if you need to. Step away if you can to a quiet place and evaluate what actions, if any, you should take regarding the new situation. Then rethink them a couple of times to be sure of your course. Follow your options through – if I do this, this will (probably) happen, and so forth for each option you have. Make your choice and, as Nike would say, Just Do It.

Other things that can help are getting a pet, regular exercise and sunshine (yeah, sunshine! it elevates moods and vitamin D levels). Using light, sound, color, touch, music, smell, any of your senses to create a mood lifting atmosphere around you (a small necklace or bracelet with an essential oil infuser in it is amazing therapy here – you can find them practically anywhere). Carrying a photo of someone or something that fills you with good feelings and thoughts to look at when your motivation lags can also help.

Years ago, I would put a large rubber band on my wrist and, every time I would find myself feeling sorry about my situation, or getting depressed, I would snap it hard enough to leave a mark. It was sort of a punishment for feeling sorry for myself. It worked for some time, until I began to enjoy the sound of it too much.

For more tips on coping with Bipolar and Stress Help Guide: Living with Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar Hope – 7 Ways to Manage Stress While Also Managing Bipolar

Have A Fabulous Day!

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Bipolar, PTSD, and Daily Life with Etsy, Uncategorized

A Whole Community of Rejected Parents of Adult Children!

Apparently there is an entire network of parents that are in similar situations as mine:

Rejected Parents Network

And a couple of books like this one!

DoneWithCryingBook

Get The Book Here!

Just had to get this out there today!

Thanks for reading!

Bipolar, PTSD, and Daily Life with Etsy, Uncategorized

The Words That Get Me By

My post concerning Mother’s Day must have hit a nerve somewhere. That’s all I’m going to say other than this is my response to the abusive and horrible things that my son said to me on Monday.

(BIG SURPRISE! He actually read my blog. That actually amuses me for some reason I do not understand. He has never wanted to actually know me, but he’s reading my blog? WTF?)

The words to this song got me through my divorce from his father, and continue to spur me on to this day. I do love it so. (Yes, I’m pissed off, can you tell?)

Godsmack – Keep Away

To hear the song on Lyrics.com : Godsmack – Keep Away

Sickness spilling through your eyes
Craving everything
That you thought was alive, yeah
Stab me yeah, in my heart again, ah yeah
Drag me through your wasted life
Are you forever dead?

Do like I told you
Stay away from me
Never misunderstand me
Keep away from me

Twistin' everything around that you say, yeah
Smack me in my mouth
200 times every other day
Oh, rag me, I don't hear you anymore, not yet
Find out what it means to me
I don't know who you are

Do like I told you
Stay away from me
Never misunderstand me
Keep away from me

Do like I told you
Stay away from me
Never misunderstand me

Draggin' on so lonely
Aren't you tired baby? Yeah
Breathing life into your lungs
Are you immune to me?

Do like I told you
Stay away from me
Never misunderstand me
Keep away from me

Do like I told you
Stay away from me
Never misunderstand me

Keep away from me, oh yeah
Never misunderstand me
Never misunderstand me
Never misunderstand me
Godsmack
Godsmack is an American heavy metal band from Lawrence, Massachusetts, formed in 1995. The band is composed of founder, frontman and songwriter Sully Erna, guitarist Tony Rombola, bassist Robbie Merrill, and drummer Shannon Larkin.

Judge me if you will, but this is my song for people that abuse and use me. It could be worse, I know some pretty violent ones – LOL.

Have A Fabulous Day! (I’m going to!)

Keep Smiling! They’re Contagious!

I-Have-Two-Moods-Dog-Meme Just thought this was cute and thought I’d add it for fun.

Bipolar, PTSD, and Daily Life with Etsy, Uncategorized

Mother’s Day Be Damned, I’m OK

Mother

Yes, I said that. Yes, I have three sons. No, we do not speak. Before you judge, that is MY decision, not theirs.

I have not mentioned my sons much in this blog for the very reason above: we no longer have a relationship. The two younger sons betrayed me. Publicly and on record. To the detriment of their Down Syndrome older brother. I tried to protect him and get him help from the awful living conditions that he was in living with his dad, and they betrayed not only me, but their brother as well.

This was not the first time that my sons have done similar type of things when it comes to me. They are apparently of the opinion that a person with Bipolar and PTSD is “unfit” and “incapable” of being there for her son with Down Syndrome. They have hidden the fact that they felt this way their entire lives. Until that day in court anyway. Fine. Whatever.

You know what? In my mind, that meant that they also find me “unfit” and “incapable” when it comes to being in their lives, or being a grandmother to my youngest son’s son. (Boy does that f*&%^*&g hurt – I was the first to hold that baby when he was born.) Again, Fine. Again, Whatever.

The entire time they were growing up I never got a gift, a card, or even so much as a freaking phone call or text. Not for Mother’s Day, my birthday, or just because. They only called when they wanted something, anything else was up to me. That was fine when they were young, they were kids. But they have been grown for years now. This year will be no different really. I’m OK with that, after all, I’ve had years of practice at being ignored, used, and abused. I’m done with it.

But when it is our own kids that betray us, we are ‘supposed’ to forgive them. (I put supposed in quotes because that is what society expects us to do.) We are judged very harshly, especially as women, if we do not communicate regularly with our offspring. WHY IS THAT???

The pain of being betrayed by anyone is bad, but what to do when your own son looks you in the eye, under oath, in front of many witnesses, and lies and then just destroys you simply because they were upset about an unrelated matter?

What do you do as a parent? What do you do as an individual being attacked in such a manner? How do you defend yourself to people that have heard nothing but bullshit from their father and his family for their entire life? People that refuse to even listen to your words, much less believe them, even though they are the God’s honest truth?

How do you cope when the mere thought of it all just makes you want to revert back to being suicidal because it is so ridiculously hopeless? You protect yourself, that’s how.

I don’t know how others handle this type of situation, but, after that day in court, I told my sons that, since I am so “unfit”, they can just forget I even exist. I mean really, if I am so “unfit” for their brother, then I must be “unfit” for them too, it is only logical. I told them not to call, or write, or text, unless it was an emergency, and then it should be by registered mail or Red Cross. That day in court proved to me that, in the future, I will need proof of any further communications with them. Yes folks, it was THAT bad.

I stood alone that day. No lawyer, no family, no friends. In a state I hadn’t lived in in 20 years fighting for the protection of my oldest son, the betrayal I felt that day almost destroyed me. I spent about 3 days in a deep depression before I came out fighting mad and determined as hell.

I basically reverted to my military training here. Adapt and overcome. YEE-fu$&ing-HAW!!

Judge me if you must, but I am a happier woman without having them in my life. I took my life back from people that abuse, use and are generally not good for me, and unfortunately at this time, that includes my own sons.

My heart aches for them every single day, never doubt that. My very soul is missing it’s center without the love of the very people I lived for all those years, but I will push through. I would literally give up everything I’ve ever had for things to be different, but they aren’t. And wishing won’t make it so.

I am in full self protection mode where they are concerned now, and I will stay there. Someday, a very long time from now, maybe things will change. But then again, I know myself all too well, I may not ever forgive. I am not God, nor am I even remotely God-like, I do not have it in me to forgive as easily as some do. I’m not sure that I even want to. Honestly, every time I have forgiven, I have gotten screwed again, so why would I?

I am doomed to forever be the Mother without Children on Mother’s Day.

Please go hug your Mom! She loves you more than you will ever know.

DIY, Uncategorized

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